Regardless of what our brains want to do, we can work around it. You know that saying, when there is a will, there is a way. There really is.
There is not a day that goes by that my brain works against me. I just find another way.
When I was in school, I was not able to understand the teacher. There were too many distractions and all I really heard was blah, blah, blah. I hear about every third or fifth word. I would always look down in school because I did not want to be called on. I know it looked like I wasn’t trying or paying attention, but I really was.
When I was in 10th grade, a teacher called me after class. She asked me why I was not taking notes in the class like the other kids. Guess what my response was?
I DON’T KNOW.
I really didn’t know why I was not able to understand her enough to take notes. I saw the other kids writing like crazy, but I was back on her first sentence and I did not know how to tell her that.
I started taking a tape recorder in class. I started taping myself reading out loud when I was studying at home. I would play it back. I would reverse and reverse and reverse until I heard it. I would then write it down in a way that I could understand it. That is what I studied for tests.
It took me about five hours to do the homework when my friends were done in one, but I was determined to get that grade. That grade was not an A. It wasn’t a B.
I generally worked that hard for a C.
I got that C because I turned in my work and I made a valiant effort to do the work.
I was not able to retain it for very long, but I would try to remember it long enough to take a test.
I found a way around my brain.
Today, I still have problems. That does not go away. I ask people to talk slower. I ask them to repeat all the time. I try to get every word and I ask what does that mean a lot.
When I watch a show with family, I simply ask them to pause to explain so I can be where they are in the story.
You have to get past being embarrassed. You have to get passed needing to be where everyone else is. You have to be willing to be okay with who you are and not be ashamed.
I know. I still struggle with wanting to be like everybody else in the room. I still want to understand and communicate like the average person.
I had a roommate in college. She did not even study and got A’s. I studied around the clock for the C that I deserved! I was happy when I saw that C on that paper because to me it said A. I had earned it. It was all mine. I was proud.