You have entered the Spectrum Zone


How do I say this? Yesterday pretty much knocked the wind out of me. I can do two things with it. Either I can let all that the neuropsych guy said and let it take me down for the count or I can continue to do what Ive always done and let it empower me even more. I prefer to let it empower me. He even said “hats off to me with all I have accomplished.” I have proven even more to myself that most people would not have accomplished all I have with my brain. I just never saw that ‘not’ doing it was an option. When they told me I would not graduate high school. I just said watch me get a masters degree. When they told me I would never hit a ball. I said i will practice until I get homeruns. I could go on and on. I have always found a way to compensate. If I cannot do it this way, I will find another way. I am one determined mother ______. if I can say that. I am having a little bit of a hard time today. I never expected him to say a couple of the things he said. Trying to process.

I looked up where my IQ falls. It basically described me to a tea. I was surprised. This is what the definition of it said under the IQ I just found out I have. Above the threshold for normal independent functioning. Can perform explicit routinized hands-on tasks without supervision as long as there are no moments of choice and it is always clear what has to be done. Assembler, food service.

I know that as long as my day is without choice and everything is spelled out to me from the first moment of my day until the end, I am anxious free and fine. Give me choice and give me a day where I am just supposed to get thigns done but it is open ended…I will accomplish nothing at all. So…it is exact. That made me even sadder. I thought I had a higher IQ. But the thing is they figured in my working memory which he said never developed and my adaptability or whatever that is never developed. So with all that said…he did mention disability.

You know, I’m a tough one. I will never ever give up. When he showed it to me, I was not really processing it. I didnt even hear the number he threw out there for my IQ. My friend, who went with me, mentioned it later in the meeting and I said, “huh?” I said thats my IQ? thats really low.

I looked at his paper which showed in a nutshell that without a doubt 100% I have Autism and some of the stuff that was in there with all the cognitive stuff, etc. could have happened in utero. Hence what I thought with the FASD stuff. But he did add say that the social component does not have to always be there to the extent that I have it with ASD. That the social anxiety with my ASD is so off the charts that he actually gave me that diagnosis as well. So,…this is another day.

Just a day.

I said to him…well all I want to know is how I make this all stronger. He said give me one thing you want to work on. I said my memory. I have like a very low ability to do short term memory. After repetition I can retain things a little better. that is why it is harder for me in the reading, as well. But I have a great word knowledge…I knew that…lol…and I can write…woohoo….

But the ability for comprehension and retaining I do need to work on so he said I need to work my brain because it simply did not develop. The frontal lobe part of my brain did not develop wehre I can bring forth information, etc…

Anyway, he said go to

You bet I will.

I will do whatever I can to make my brain stronger.

This was harsh news, but news that I know will just make me stronger.

And I said to my friend, it just proves how strong I am. How I was able to accomplish these things that I never should have been able to. I just found another way.

And I’m not going to stop.

just another day.

Comments on: "Results" (7)

  1. Ann – take this and run with it… You will discover many brain building and memory building fun (yes and hard) opportunities. Hugs

  2. BEAUTIFULLY and very well written! It made me take some pause reading your words and applying them to my daughter. In second grade the school psychologist said she feared for my daughter and her future. Most everyone that comes across her says “but, she is so high functioning. She doesn’t look like there is anything wrong with her.” She, too, has been testes with working memory issues, comprehension and retention issues… “but, she looks normal”. I HATE THAT PHRASE!!!

    What the heck is “normal”….

    You go take the information the neuropsych gave you and run like hell with it. You will do what you need to do for you and will succeed in what you do. Good luck to you and I’m so glad I had a chance to read this.


    • Awesome! I am so glad you found this. Check out Flying with Broken Wings on facebook if you havent yet. They are a great support group for people with FASD and their caregivers. Yes, I hate the word normal too. And I hear all the time that you look normal so people expect me to be able to act like everyone else. We do our best, but we do have real deficits and it is hard fitting into a room where everyone is moving so fast and we are 10 steps behind. They often dont think to go our pace. So, we have to remind them. Thanks again for reading Melissa!

  3. You seem quite intelligent to me. You seem very similar to my level of functioning and I was diagnosed with FASD. my working memory and my short term memory is very poor and like you, repetition surely does help. I also have social anxiety disorder off the charts as well so I can relate to how you feel. it’s not easy living with a developmental disability living in a neurotypical world but I manage because I know I am strong.

    • Heather, we sound so similar. It is nice to have met you via this blog. Thank you for letting me get to know you with your comments. It is so nice to get to know others who absolutely relate to this thing we call FASD. Thanks again!

  4. Heather Rae Davidson said:

    Your welcome. Having FASD is a horrible curse and I wish his on no one. I have struggled with FASD all my life and have got no where. I have been cruelly treated by others, lied to and deceived and manipulated and stolen from. I have no family who accepts me for the disability that I’m forced to live with for the rest of my life. But I have decided to make the best of it and I’ m a talented artist. I do a a small group of friends that respect me and that’s nice to have when I don’t have family who are supportive of me and would rather not have me in they’re lives because of this diagnosis.
    I do struggle with many things especially my short term memory and my working memory. I know that I’m intelligent likely with an above average iq as many have surmised. I have this app and it’s very similar to the real iq test that I have done, Stanford Binet Intelligence Test and I have scored at 114 which is only one Iq away from above average. But those who have commented on my intelligence have university education or are currently getting a university education so that being said helps my self esteem. I wouldn’t mind getting to know you a bit more. Have a great weekend,
    Heather Rae.

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